Going through a divorce is an incredibly tough thing to do, especially if you have to do it on your own. Although it may feel as if all is lost, know that there is hope for your future. During this time of fear, uncertainty, or emotional upheaval in your life, turn to the following 10 motivational quotes to help get you through. And if you have questions about how to protect your legal rights during a divorce, be sure to reach out to the Providence divorce attorneys at Gemma Law Associates, Inc.
1. “When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.” — Helen Keller
The words stated above are a reminder that in order to find the next great thing in your life, you must allow yourself to move on. If you dwell on the past, you will miss future opportunities.
2. “Good things fall apart so better things can fall together.” — Marilyn Monroe
This quote takes a glass-half-full approach to looking at divorce and suggests that however great you believed your marriage to be, there is something better out there waiting for you, and everything in life happens for a reason.
3. “Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” — Alfred Lord Tennyson
Even if you do not love poetry, you have probably heard the quote above. And whether or not you believe it, love probably taught you more about yourself, about cooperation with another individual, and about what you want in a partner than you would have experienced otherwise. An article in Psychology Today suggests that we should never steer clear of love (even if the outcome of that love isn’t glamorous).
4. “Life becomes easier when you learn to accept an apology you never got.” — Robert Brault
When you are getting divorced, you may feel as though your partner owes you an apology. And chances are — they probably do. However, if you do not get an apology, you will not do yourself any favors by holding onto your anger and hurt for months or years to come. The best thing that you can do is to forgive your spouse, even if he or she has not actually said the words, “I’m sorry.”
An article published by the Mayo Clinic suggests that the benefits of forgiveness include a stronger immune system, healthier relationships, greater spiritual and psychological well-being, improved heart health, higher self-esteem, and fewer symptoms of depression.
5. “When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” — Lao Tzu
If you have been in an unhappy marriage for a long time, who you are inside may have been suppressed or stifled. If you are still holding on to a person whom you do not like, or personality characteristics that do not really feel like you, it is time to let go. When you let go of what is holding you back, you have the freedom to maximize your true potential.
6. “Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start.” — Nido Qubein
Do not let your divorce be the thing that holds you back from having the things that you want in life. Although your divorce may certainly feel like a setback, it is not your defining characteristic, and it does not need to define your life. Take a moment to step back and look at your life: This is where you are — now move forward.
7. “If you are going through hell, keep going.” — Winston Churchill
Sometimes, you have to push through the bad parts in life, no matter how painful it may be. Delaying a divorce or divorce settlement, fighting with your spouse, or trying to save a marriage that you know will result in failure will only make things worse. Push through the worst of it and then move on.
8. “I can courageously handle anything as long as I take it one moment at a time.” — Sue Patton Thoele
This quote is a good reminder that you are capable of more than you think if you put your mind to it and commit to taking it in small doses. Take it one day at a time, starting with each morning. When you wake up, greet the day with gratitude and remind yourself that you will get through this.
9. “What does not kill me makes me stronger.” — Friedrich Nietzsche
Although it can be hard to put into perspective during the moment of pain, Nietzsche’s quote above reminds us that when it is all said and done, you will have actually gained something by going through your divorce. Strength, resiliency, and the proof that you have done it will all be yours when the divorce is over.
10. “This too shall pass.” — Proverb
Finally, remember that as will all things, your divorce will one day be over, and you will move on. By focusing on the fact that “this too shall pass,” you can take comfort and solace, and find strength.
Our Providence Divorce Attorneys Are Ready to Serve You
We know that the quotes above may not make certain aspects — like dividing property or working out a custody agreement — any easier. Although we hope that you will take comfort in these words, we also know that there are some logistics that will require more than a good attitude to handle. That is where we come in.
At Gemma Law Associates, Inc., we can help you file for your divorce, understand the important issues, negotiate on your behalf for a fair divorce settlement, and more. If you have questions, our attorneys are only a phone call away. To schedule a free case consultation, call our offices directly or use our online form to tell us more about your divorce needs.